I, personally, think it'd be fun to shoot any 10mm enough to get it to fall to pieces. I was really hesitant to shoot heavy loads in any of my 10mms early on. I'd always handload around 5-10% under book max loads, which are already far from the original factory spec. Not until Dave Sams built me a 10mm Commander on a Caspian frame and slide did I begin to realize that the hubbub about the 10mm destroying guns was a matter of ignorance in maintenance/setup or simply some tall tales of yesteryear. I have 6 10mm 1911s in all, ranging from the commander-length Caspian to a heavy longslide, and as Sean stated, I can't even see wear on them. I shoot factory loads a good bit, but I try to keep handloads near the upper end of the 10mm spectrum just because that's what it was meant to do. If I don't want or need the power I pick up a 45. If you and your chosen 'smith use good sense when doing build spec's, you have little to worry about.
FWIW, I don't use any buffer in the commander sized Caspian gun (it won't run reliably with them), and use a 24# recoil spring. I change springs every 1500 rounds just to be sure, and I couldn't begin to tell you how many rounds it has through it now.
My advice is to get a Delta, figure out what you want and don't want, and let the selected pistol/gunsmith make it work. I really like all of mine and if one ever breaks due to non-abuse I will most certainly let everyone know.
If you build it (or have it built), you will not regret it. Do It, Man! Good luck.
~Jim Keeney

Caspian Commander-Sized 10mm

Sams Custom Gunworks Delta Elite 10mm

Sams Custom Caspian Longslide and Caspian Shorty 10mm

SCG Razorback 10mm

SCG Para Ordnance/Caspian 10mm

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